LET’S LOVE
LOVE YOUR BODY, MIND, AND SOUL.
LOVE THE WORLD.
In the midst of a period where I felt I lost myself--leaving behind mediation, leaving behind my values and belief systems, things that I knew to be true about who I really am--I forgot that I also abandoned my connection to my sexual energy and my body. When I started to reconnect to my body and my sexual energy, things started to make sense again. I had gone through such a powerful healing and transformation around my sexual energy when I stepped outside of the western society and started learning about myself and the world of sexual healing in a community that understands it. When I returned to the USA, and stayed in my mother's house, all the old energies, beliefs and habits around negative sexual energy started coming back and I forgot. But In forgetting about it all, I re-experienced the intensity of the dry, passionless, disconnected existence that comes from these old perspectives and habits. And this only reinforced for me that much stronger the immense importance of sexual healing in our lives. The importance of integrating this creative life force energy that originates in our base chakra, in our sexual organs, the source of our beginning into this world and the source of our ability to create in our lives. When this is blocked off, we do not feel whole and we certainly don't feel inspired to be ALIVE and CREATE. Collectively we all carry so much dark, heavy, negative energy in our sexual center. We carry shame, disgust, blame, criticism, fear, sadness, pain, and a lot of trauma. We have all experienced some form of abuse to our sexuality. Whether on a large traumatic scale of suffering a physical abuse, or verbally and energetically by experiencing the world and people we care about refer to sexual energy in a negative way. Since we have been carrying around so much fear and shame around our sexuality for so long, it makes perfect sense that we are passing the same energies, mentalities and beliefs around it on to the next generation. Through our interactions with family members, friends at school, social media, we are constantly learning that sexuality is dark in some way. It's either shameful and should be hid away, or it's a weapon we can use to manipulate and get what we want from other people. Yes, sexual energy is POWERFUL! No question. But why would we choose to use this power in only negative ways? Why would we use it to exert control over someone else and get what we want? Why would we use it to criticize ourselves or belittle our self worth? Why is it status quo to hide our sexual energy and all discussions and topics around it under the table? Then go in your private home and secretly interact with it in a shameful, negative way through porn and angry masturbation? There's nothing wrong with porn and nothing wrong with masturbation, except for the way it's done. Almost all porn carries the messages of sex being naughty and dirty and needing to sneak around with it and do 'bad things' with it, and do bad things to other people and ourselves. We either degrade women to just being sexual objects that men use for their pleasure, or we degrade ourselves in believing that it is our only source of power or self worth. We completely misrepresent what sexuality and intimacy are truly about, and for a lot of young people, porn will be the only way they learn about anything related to sex and self pleasure, which is quite disturbing that will be all they understand. It's no wonder there's so much confusion about what to do with our sexual energy, how to behave and use our bodies, and what to do in the sex act itself. If nobody is ever educating anyone about it, how could we expect it to look any different than the dirty sexual fantasy versions you see in porn? There is also no inherent problem with having sexual fantasies, but again, because we misunderstand the reasons behind it, we allow it to have control over us and don't use it in a positive way. Sexual energy is THE MOST POWERFUL energy we have. It is the same energy as plain and simple life force energy. There is no difference. It is not separate from life, it is the very thing that creates life itself. Shunning it is shunning life and being afraid of it is living in fear of being alive. When we have sexual fantasies we are using the powerful force of life energy to bring to light our hidden fears and desires. This is all great! This is such a beautiful opportunity to heal these wounds and to express our desires that we are normally suppressing and afraid to admit in our everyday lives. If we have a fantasy of being taken by our teacher, we are calling forward a desire we have to be controlled by someone with more power than us. That's an obvious interpretation which we all know, but taking it one step further, why do we need to be controlled by somebody more powerful? Could it be because we enjoy surrendering and letting go? Could it simply be a craving in our being to surrender more in our lives? Not to a person, not giving up our control and letting them do what they want with our body, but on a deeper level, desiring to let go of our strong pattern of controlling everything in our lives all the time. These kinds of deeper realizations through understanding our sexual energy is such a powerful form of healing! If we can see this in ourselves and dig deeper into its meaning we can find so much relief in our daily lives. It's creating a release in the sexual tension built around these fantasies, and it's also releasing the tension around the deeper issues that caused those fantasies in the first place, which leads to a total change in everything we do in life. Usually we will end up dropping our 'dirty' sexual fantasies because they have played their part and are no longer needed. They are simply our body's way of communicating with us our deepest desires and areas for deeper healing. Our bodies, and the sexual life energy that moves through it to create is absolutely beautiful. And it is absolutely essential to living a life of passion, creativity, love of self and others, expression and joy. Let's start changing how we view sexual expression and our own bodies so that we can finally be free to move and create as we wish. As long as we're at war with our own bodies and our own sexuality, we will continue to be at war with each other. The old wise hippie phrase is really true: make love, not war. We wouldn't be able to fight if we were all feeling satisfied and in love with ourselves--in love with every part of ourselves, not just the parts we're told is acceptable to love. Let's take back control of our bodies and the fullness of who we are. Let's jump, laugh, shout, play, dance and make love in all the different ways our body wants to move and express. Let's use our bodies as the precious vehicles we have to enjoy this magical life experience. Let's listen to the wisdom in our bodies and the sexual energy that expresses itself here to learn more about ourselves, to dive deeper and deeper into discovering who we are and what we're capable of. Let's do all this, together. Instead of comparing and competing, let's support, compliment and encourage each other to express more fully, to shine more brightly, to know ourselves more deeply. If the current system won't educate us in these ways that support our health and livelihood, we have to reclaim our bodies and our lives, and do it for ourselves. This way we empower and free ourselves, no longer dependent on the structures and collective beliefs outside of us. And by spreading this love and empowerment with others, the collective beliefs and structures shift, allowing a new world that's created around vitality, freedom, respect and joy. Yes yes yes!
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MICHAELA CLARA I'm here to share what I've learned through my journey of self exploration-traveling around the outer world and within the inner world-learning about how to live a healthy life, in alignment with the body, heart and soul. Every day I'm discovering how to live more in health, connection and truth. Through joy, passion & self love, creating the life I want, and sharing this love with others. Join me for the ride! Read More |