the big sex taboo

What if sex and sexual energy was never deemed anything different or separate from any other regular part of your body and your life? What if it was never thought of as bad, shameful, ugly, disturbing, inappropriate, wrong, dirty, seedy, slutty, degrading, disrespectful, angry, violent or shady? What if it was so normalized to just feel every part of our body equally? What if it was acceptable, dare I say it, to even love our entire body? What if we were all on board with feeling pleasure and excitement? What if the pleasure of enjoying our own bodies was considered to be beautiful, normal and it was encouraged, instead of being some dark devilish 'mistake' that needs to be expelled from our lives? What if the religious could see the fallacy in believing in an all-knowing and all-powerful God that would create bodies providing immense sexual pleasure, only to supposedly condemn, deny and shame it? What if we honored ourselves and the gift of feeling good in our own bodies?

There was a point in our human history when the patriarchy governing our society decided the sexual force was too strong and powerful to be dealt with, and we needed to banish it away from our life experience. As we denied our sexual energy and natural life force that provided us with love, intuitive wisdom, and connection to one another, the genders started to polarize and separate. All this happened simply because we forgot the source of where we came from and why we're here. This loving energy that created our life in the beginning, from 2 humans drawn together by love, creating even more love. Putting into physical form a miraculous expression of that very love. Seeing what immense power love truly is, to be able to create a whole other human being.


Creating this separation from the loving life force in our bodies led to feeling lost, separate and sad, which then turned into anger, and then blame to try to displace and explain the anger. Society then becomes riddled with angry, disconnected people trying to blame one another for what went wrong. We then created a society focused around mental energy, since we were disconnected from our body we had to place our energy somewhere, so it all rushed up to the head and we started making logic and thought the primary driver for creation. We justified this as being the 'more evolved, advanced' way to be human. To cut off from our own source of life and live mostly through the mind.


We created all kinds of wild thoughts, at first just many to explain why we had so much anger. So many clever explanations and justifications for why others were to blame, especially the other gender because, well, don't we usually blame the ones we actually most love and want connection from? The divide between genders became so extreme and we truly created a war of the sexes. Because women are the bearers of such strong connection to the earth and the sexual, creative life force, they represented everything that everyone was trying to push away and deny in themselves. Thus the women and the energy they represented were the source of fear, and slowly they too had to be shamed and disempowered. The men were representatives of the more mental, rational, logical thinking that took the place of sexual life energy. Thus began the suppression of women's power in the world, and the rise of the dominant male as the leader. The thinker.


These male thinkers then began creating masculine structures around these concepts that deny our creative sexual experience. Government further created tight social structure to further condemn and restrict our ways of being. Manufacturing the human experiencing into more and more of a controlled, artificial being, ruled by strict moral and social codes of conduct. It became normalized to cover and hide parts of our bodies that were now deemed 'dirty.' The very parts that create humans in the first place.


We can look to the center of the world where humanity's greatest sickness has been on display for us to look at it and reflect on for centuries. This ridiculous never-ending war in the middle east. It's a war of brothers fighting against brothers. Their cultures are so similar, they speak similarly, they even share a lot of the same vocabulary, they eat the same foods..it is family fighting family. Over religion. What is religion? Religion was created by men back when they felt this disconnection from their body, when we banished these sexual urges. When women and the sexual vibrant life force they exuded were pushed down and degraded. So men needed some way to feel connected and at peace after cutting themselves off from their own bodies, from their inner feminine life force energy. Yes. Sexually frustrated men created religion as a way to gain some kind of control. And this religion is just another way we used the intellect to separate ourselves from our brothers and sisters, from our family, from our own bodies, and is of course, the source of the ultimate war between us.


Religion provided a manual for how to commune with God, from a very male logic and rule-centered approach. And what is God anyway? It's just a word we used for the mystery of life, the driving force behind this whole universe. When we were sitting buck naked on this earth trying to figure out how we got here and what we're supposed to do..and…whhhyyy? We don't need religion to show us how to connect with God, or the mysterious life force, the cosmos, the everythingness that created us into being. We don't need religion to tell us how to be spiritual beings. We ARE SPIRITUAL. We could never not be spiritual, we are alive and breathing with blood coursing through our veins pumping to magical organs with cells that magically work to keep us functioning on this planet. This IS MAGIC. JUST BEING ALIVE IS SPIRITUAL.


How do you get more spiritual than two human beings uniting their two separate bodies into one and feeling a burst of powerful, magnificent energy surge through them, something they would never otherwise experience, and from this union, powerfully create another living being?? How do you get more spiritual than observing you are breathing in this moment? You are not doing anything to make this happen. You are not doing anything to pump blood to your heart, to fire neurons in your brain so you can create this mysterious thing we call thought- something we can't see or feel or touch or experience with any of our body's 5 senses. And yet, it happens, and we don't know how or why. There is intelligence in every cell of our body doing incredible, magical things that function in perfect order, doing millions of different tasks that somehow seamlessly (for the most part) come together to keep us alive. Being alive is an incredible, wondrous, magical mystery that no one has ever been able to explain with the intellect. So why do we need a religion to tell us how to be spiritual when we just are? The body has all the wisdom we need to feel connected, if we just listen and follow its mysteriously powerful wisdom. Obviously it's been taking care of everything else so far, why wouldn't we continue allowing it to do so? Why wouldn't we trust in its ultimate authority in the same way we trust it will take our next breath for us without us asking or trying?


Women, the most sensual, sexually alluring, the bearers of this sexual life force energy of creation, were branded as witches with frightening, dangerous, dark magical powers and burned at the stake.  Women were told to lock away all sensual feelings and the section of their bodies from below the belly to the leg were to be shut down and locked away in a box. It's been locked away in this secret box and nobody taught you how to find the key! Let alone how to handle whatever mysterious things were hiding inside! Were they exciting magical things or were they evil dark scary things better left locked away? We have no clue with all the confusion around what we learned growing up, even though our bodies have no confusion at all! They are very clear in their message to us. YES YES YES! Gimme gimme gimme! I want love, I want connection, I want juice, I want passion, I want to feel alive!


Little did we know that our very life force, the very secret to our joy and happiness and play in this world was locked inside this box. The other piece of us we've been searching for because we have been cutting off the vital part of our bodies and our livelihood, never feeling whole. Every attempt to satisfy this longing and itch for something more (is it in marriage?), something satisfying (is it in chocolate?), something to fill us and complete us (is it in career?), was always misdirected towards the outside world. Looking in finding the perfect partner, in food, drugs, activity, work life, superficial image, so many things that might be 'the thing' that finally makes us feel relaxed and at home in our bodies. But nobody ever wanted to simply let us know that all along it was us. All along it was simply connecting to our body, our COMPLETE BODY, including our sexual organs and parts and energies, that would finally make us feel at rest. Satiated. Whole.


We are at war with each other because we are at war with ourselves. Our bodies long for us to be fully connected with our whole selves. Our bodies crave, moan and intuitively guide us towards our joy, and we shut it down and battle with ourselves because society has taught us it's 'not right,' lock it away. Get rid of those thoughts, get rid of those feelings. But you can't. You never could, it's impossible. The body will never stop asking for what it needs to survive. And so you have to hide and feel shame for these 'dirty' thoughts (that everybody secretly has), find ways to satisfy your 'shameful' urges in the darkness of the night (same as everybody else is doing), alone with a magazine or the internet in shady chat rooms, where, guess what, EVERYONE ELSE is doing the same thing! It's this forbidden ugly dirty "secret" that everyone knows about, and yet we cannot dare hush a word about it, for fear of exposing the truth of what we desire.


I realize I am being EXTREMELY CONTROVERSIAL here, touching on all the major ouchy taboo topics of humanity. Good. We need to be shaken up and made uncomfortable. Our current state of comfort is NOT WORKING. But we can see how all these major touchy subjects are connected and woven together. We've overcomplicated all our problems and the messes of the world. Not that fixing it all is so simple, but understanding the root problems sure is, and that's the crucial starting point. Could sex save the world? No, not sex. Certainly not sex as we now know it.

But with all that we THINK we've accomplished with our intellect, all the incredible technology and advancement, we are still functioning as less free and less evolved than our animal friends, when it comes to our bodies and natural expression. And with only technological and mental progress in the world, we will certainly destroy ourselves if we ignore the needs of the earth and our physical bodies. Our bodies and the earth are screaming this message louder and louder at us--more climate change, more natural disaster, more disease. How long will it take to listen to this powerful ultimate wisdom which, as we forget from our ego-centric, superior arrogance, will always have the final word. Whatever knowledge or invention we come up with will still never have any comparison to the will of nature. So easily we forget.

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Reconnecting with our whole bodies, including our sexual energy back into the picture, restoring our total health in our bodies and then in the earth..this is the key to our salvation. This is the most intelligent thing that we could do.